1. REMEMBER A CHILD WITH ADHD WHO IS IGNORING, ANNOYING, OR EMBARRASSING YOU IS NOT ACTING THIS WAY ON PURPOSE JUST TO SEE HOW CROSS YOU CAN GET.
2. ADHD is just as frustrating for the child, more often then not children with ADHD want to do the right thing and they want to make you proud. When ever possible praise them for doing the right thing. No matter how small that thing is.3. Children with ADHD are impulsive often interrupt conversations, demand attention at inappropriate times, and speak before they think, saying tactless, embarrassing and even very hurtful things. Try not to take this to heart, to the child they are just words. Chances are they will of forgotten what they said less then five minutes after saying it. Do not hold onto these words, as they will do so much damage to your relationship with the child. You need to be the adult and grow a thick skin and learn to let it go.
4. A child with ADHD often has very low self esteem and a very poor image of themselves, this comes about because they so desperately want to do the right thing yet they are constantly let down by their own brains inability to focus. The emotional out bursts and fast mood changes are a result of their brains firing too many signals that they just cannot process. So give the child opportunities to succeed with small tasks you know they can handle and feel good about themselves.
5. End each day with some positive time; possibly have a diary where you write the best things of the day in. What went well today, what did you learn? Children with ADHD can easily fall into a pit of doom and gloom thinking no one likes them and they are rubbish. Tell them daily positive affirmations.
6. Keep a routine to the day to avoid a child from feeling over whelmed and unsure as to what is going to happen. Possibly establish an order for things to be done on a school day to avoid too much procrastination. Use visual time tables and post it notes to aid independence.
7. Do not set yourself and the children up to fail, there are some tasks that all children would struggle with such as shopping for a new sofa. If you can find a time to do this when the child is not around it may be best. The trip will just end up with a distressed child and you will be feeling cross and frustrated as well.
8. Give the child with ADHD regular space to bounce and move about, sensory proprioception is so important and feels great. When a child is given the space and freedom to move they will automatically move their bodies in a way that the body needs feedback to realien itself. Yes hanging upside down on the sofa is providing a needed feedback sensation.
9. Have the same realistic expectation of behaviour for the child with ADHD as you would any other child. They will need more guidance as to what is expectable and unacceptable behaviour. By providing realistic expectations you are showing them that they are valued just as much as everyone else. Decide which behaviours are minor and ignore them for example using a loud voice in the house also decide which behaviours will not be tolerated such as swearing at people. These behaviours if displayed should have quick and short consequences that have been pre agreed with the child. Removing an ipad from a child with ADHD for 5 minutes can be just as effective as removing it from another child for an hour. Be consistent with consequences.
10. Establish a good sleep hygiene routine, ideally no screen time at leat an hour before bed for young children 30 minutes may be ok for older children but definitely no gaming an hour before bed. As a child with ADHD craves attention give them 1:1 attention during this screen free time. Read a story, play a card game or just chat about what ever is on their mind. White noise can also help relax a child with ADHD. This can come from a bubble tube ( just check they don’t become over stimulated) , fan or even white noise CD’s. Black out blinds are also good for those who are very light sleepers.